I often ask my staff if we are playing offense or defense. Are we being proactive or are we constantly responding to problems? Are we seeking solutions to possible situations or are we waiting for those problems to actually arrive before responding? Once you get into the reactive or defensive state of mind it is very hard to race back to the front or to get back on offense.
How can this attitude impact you, your family, your business, or your faith-based organization? Think about this in terms of children. Are you trying to protect your children from every little negative detail that they may come in contact with, or are you teaching them how to respond before they are faced with difficult situations? Are you teaching them how to grow from their negative or positive encounters and then how to lead others in a positive direction? Sometimes it is easier to protect than to allow growth.
Are you constantly defending traditional ways in your faith-based organization, while lives are being changed at an exponential rate across the street? Are you willing to look at your own faith-based organization and make changes that will impact young families and children without sacrificing the theology of your organization?
Is your business an average or dying business because you are just trying to be competitive with what others are doing or are you a leader in your industry and others are just trying to keep up with you?
I recently finished re-reading, Mindset, by Dr. Carol Dweck. She shares:
Whether they’re aware of it or not, all people keep a running account of what’s happening to them, what it means, and what they should do. In other words, our minds are constantly monitoring and interpreting. That’s just how we stay on track. But sometimes the interpretation process goes awry. Some people put more extreme interpretations on things that happen-and then react with exaggerated feelings of anxiety, depression, or anger. Or superiority.
Mindsets frame the running account that’s taking place in people’s heads. They guide the whole interpretation process. The fixed mindset creates an internal monologue that is focused on judging: “This means I’m a loser.” “This means I’m a better person than they are.” “This means I’m a bad husband.” “This means my partner is selfish.”
People with a growth mindset are constantly monitoring what’s going on, but their internal monologue is not about judging themselves and others in this way. Certainly they’re sensitive to positive and negative information, but they’re attuned to its implications for learning and constructive actions.
Curingtheculture.com believes in the idea of a growth mindset. We can’t Cure the Culture of this crazy world by living on the defensive side of the ball. We can never change the culture of our home, our business, our faith-based organization, or ourselves without leading the way in our vision. Reacting to a negative society will never make it better. We must take the lead and Cure the Culture!